Right Mothering

My second cautionary tale has made it into the mainstream press, but that does not necessarily mean it has made it into the mainstream consciousness.  First, check out this old interview of Dr. Drew by Tucker Carson.  (Just gloss over Dr. Drew’s statement that “pregnancy is a diseased state and can be quite dangerous to women”) and this almost three-year old article from the New York Times based on the publication of then-recent research.

Now, my pill-clouded experience of long-term relationships was not the most positive.  Passion subsided soon after the first flush of excitement, and now I know why –  the pill.  I was lucky to escape those relationships, but I was even luckier to have been off the pill when I met my husband.

Since being off the pill for many years, I now appreciate the natural hormonal fluctuations of my body.  When I am ovulating, arousal is wonderfully overpowering.  I do not know how a marriage would remain physically fulfilling without this monthly ebb and flow of desire.  And more importantly, how can one truly fall in love if ovulation and its accompanying hormones and the resulting arousal are suppressed?

And we should not forget yet one more generally unacknowledged danger of the pill: as a contaminant of nature.

** Update **

Just came across this old news about how the pill interferes in other chemical ways with falling in love.